Picture courtesy of Noonan's
Egypt (1) Suakin 1885 (Lieut: R. G. Coke, 2/Scots. Gds.);
[ QSA (4) CC OFS Tr 01 (Lt IY) ]
Reginald Grey Coke was born on 10 July 1864, the son of the Honourable Henry and Lady Katherine Coke, and nephew of the Earl of Leicester. Commissioned as an Ensign and Lieutenant into the 2nd Battalion, Scots Guards on 6 February 1884, and the next year saw active service in the Soudan being present during the Suakin 1885 operations, in the engagements at Hasheen and Temai. Coke married Elizabeth Wilson on 2 April 1887, and on 28 May 1887 then resigned his commission from the Scots Guards.
Coke divorced in 1888, and then married for a second time, Phyllis Susan, on 21 April 1892, she being the daughter of Francis William Bolt of Somersell, Derbyshire. With the outbreak of the Boer War in South Africa, Coke was re-commissioned as a Lieutenant for service with the 10th Squadron, 3rd Battalion, Imperial Yeomanry on 20th February 1901, and then saw service out in South Africa being awarded the QSA. with the usual 4 clasps. With the cessation of hostilities he relinquished his commission on 8 August 1902.
CC, OFS, Tr on WO100/121p50. SA01 on WO100/121p57 and WO100/131p55. Invalided 8 August 1901.
Coke subsequently spent time in America and became a resident there, and it was whilst he was there that he met and began an affair with Galia, daughter of Professor Michael Hambourg and sister of the pianist Mark Hambourg, and divorced his wife, Phyllis Susan in Nebraska.
Coke however had in fact committed bigamy, as he was still married to Phyllis Susan back in England, and as such his English wife obtained grounds for divorce, which went ahead on 17 June 1908, an event which caused a press sensation with the title 'Bigamy Easy in America' appearing in the New York Times for 18 June 1908. One account stated that Coke who had married back in 1892, and his wife had had a good relationship through to 1899, but he had then travelled to Ceylon on account of financial difficulties. When she did not hear from him she became suspicious and together with her father-in-law travelled out to find him, only to find that he had apparently gone to India and met a 'young lady'. On his return the situation was discussed and reconciled however a separation followed. Under a further article titled 'The Candid Husband', apparently in 1906 Coke informed his wife that he had ended his friendship with the lady, and proposed taking Mrs Coke to St. Moritz, but instead of this offer being carried out, she received the following letter dated 4 December 1906:
'Phyllis, - I have been obliged to accept Daddy's terms.
There can be no question of my coming out to St. Moritz. I want you to understand that I don't intend ever to be with you again. I can't pretend any longer that I have the smallest feeling of affection for you.'
It appears that his wife still maintained affection for him. Having married for a third time, Galia in 1909, Coke died on 8 February 1930 leaving one son and two daughters. Both his second and third wives outlived him.